草榴社区 Graduate Overcomes Long Odds to Earn Degree, Obtain Teaching Job
Wed, 12/08/2021 - 09:32am | By: Van Arnold
Some students are forced to hurdle imposing obstacles on the path to a college degree.
Others, like 2021 University of 草榴社区 Mississippi (草榴社区) graduate Florence E. James,
must scale mountains.
James, who grew up in south Chicago, overcame enormous odds to earn her degree in Music Education earlier this year. Her winding odyssey from homeless dreamer to college graduate has culminated with a position as music teacher at Grace Christian Elementary School in Hattiesburg, Miss.
鈥淚f it wasn鈥檛 for God, I鈥檇 be just getting by,鈥� said James, known affectionately by family and friends as Flo. 鈥淥ut of several candidates, who were probably more-qualified and experienced, God saw fit to place me here, and it鈥檚 the most beautiful thing. Every day, I have the opportunity to help give students what they lack. I couldn鈥檛 have, and didn鈥檛 even come close to, imagining I鈥檇 have a career in my field so soon after graduating.鈥�
When her name was called during the May Commencement at 草榴社区, James took her unfettered, sweet time crossing the stage 鈥� 51 seconds to be exact. As the first person in her family to even attend college, James wanted to savor the surreal experience.
During the joyous stroll, she let out a satisfying yelp that caught the attention of 草榴社区 President Rodney D. Bennett.
鈥淒r. Bennett stopped me and asked me, 鈥榃hat鈥檚 on your cap? Turn around.鈥� On my cap
I had written, 鈥楩or My Children鈥檚 Children,鈥欌�� said James. 鈥淒r. Bennett then asked
me what that meant? I told him that I鈥檓 the only one who has left home and graduated
from college. Not my sister, my brothers, mom, dad, or grandparents on both sides.
I am a first-generation college graduate, and I won鈥檛 be the last.鈥�
Later that same day James said that she felt a confirmation from God through the words of a gospel song 鈥� The Blessing.
鈥淢ay His favor be upon you and a thousand generations and your family and your children and their children and their children. May His presence go before you, behind, and beside you. All around you. He is with you. He is in you.鈥�
James revealed that during her childhood years she shared a poverty-stricken neighborhood with gang members, rapists, drug dealers, prostitutes, armed robbers, murderers, and criminals of many other variations. She concedes that her direction was not always a straight and narrow one either.
When her mother died in 2009, James went to live with an aunt who ultimately fell under the teen-ager鈥檚 care. With her father in and out of the picture, James found herself floundering as the weight of her caregiving responsibilities mounted.
James excelled in school, but she often lacked sleep, and she needed help. The latter would come in an unexpected manner, thanks to the compassionate eye of one high school teacher.
鈥淲ith all of the running around, of course I stayed tired, and one day I began falling asleep in my honors English class. Mrs. (Elsa) Davenport noticed and inquired, but I gave her no place until the latter part of my senior year,鈥� said James. 鈥淎s a graduation requirement, we had to write a personal statement to five colleges on why they should select us.鈥�
The strong-willed James did not hold back.
鈥淚n that statement, I let everything out, to a degree that Mrs. Davenport had to take action. She made me rewrite my story in an appropriate way because it was quite revealing,鈥� explained James. 鈥淲ith graduation soon approaching, she started urging me to go to college. I explained to her that I couldn鈥檛 because I had to take care of home. She told me that if I couldn鈥檛 help myself, then I couldn鈥檛 help anyone else.鈥�
James did, in fact, apply to colleges in New York and California, eventually earning acceptance to the AMDA College of Performing Arts in Los Angeles. However, the tuition proved too costly.
She took her next shot with Talladega College in Talladega, Ala., where she was accepted and attended classes for a short while. 鈥淣o growth there,鈥� said James when explaining her withdrawal.
From there James made her way to William Carey University in Hattiesburg on the recommendation of a college choir director. After enrolling in 2013, she dropped out a year later.
Finding a place where she fit plagued James until she landed at 草榴社区. And though she struggled mightily, stopping and starting a few times along the way, James persevered. She laughs now at the thought of graduating at the age of 27. 鈥淚t took me eight years to graduate because I kept giving up,鈥� she exclaimed.
James credits two people in particular for helping her realize some far-fetched dreams: her adoptive parents - Willie and Avie Nelson of Hattiesburg. A chance meeting at a local Walmart several years ago led to a relationship that drastically altered the course of James鈥� life.
After walking to Walmart one evening, she approached the store鈥檚 Vision Center to inquire about taxi services. Vision Center Manager Willie Nelson, though somewhat baffled, offered some suggestions as he learned more about James鈥� journey from Chicago to Hattiesburg. Before parting ways, he offered a card that included information about Word of Faith Church and invited James to attend. She politely declined, yet took the card out of courtesy.
鈥淭wo weeks later a friend of mine was murdered back home in Chicago, and I couldn鈥檛 go because I had no money,鈥� said James. 鈥淚 was depressed, so I gave the number a call and left a message. They took me to church where I would eventually become a member. They began to offer me shelter during school breaks, car rides and other necessities.鈥�
Until one day, the unthinkable happened.
鈥淲e were at the Hattiesburg Convention Center walking around the lake and just before everything closed they asked, 鈥榃hat do you think of us being your parents?鈥� I was just stunned,鈥� explained James. 鈥淭hey wanted me. I didn鈥檛 know what to say right then, so they told me to think about it, and the rest is history. Here we are now eight years in. What a story!鈥�
The Nelsons say divine inspiration prompted them to accept James into their family.
鈥淲e believe the best way to truly help someone is to get them into an environment that will help them flourish,鈥� said Willie Nelson. 鈥淲hat better way to do that than allow someone access to those things that helped you be successful? After all, for the most part, we are products of our environment.鈥�
Avie Nelson uses words like 鈥渟tressful, cautious, scary, regretful, amazing, wonderful and proud鈥� to describe the years since James became their adopted daughter. The couple also have three biological children: KeUndra (20), David (6) and Ethen (4).
鈥淔lo coming into our lives has made us more confident in God鈥檚 love,鈥� said Avie Nelson. 鈥淲e were not sure if we were equipped for this assignment, but we can鈥檛 imagine life without her. She came here with a huge wall up at all times with everyone. She was always trying to run people away. She was just trying to protect her heart from being hurt. Day after day, week after week, the bricks of the wall were being destroyed by love 鈥� the only thing that can truly heal a broken heart.鈥�
The overachieving James loves to sing. She plays the guitar, piano, electric bass,
violin and cello. Living and surviving on the mean streets of Chicago, she envisioned
a completely different future than the one that has materialized.
鈥淚 thought I鈥檇 have at least a 5-year-old, working a part-time job, on welfare with no car and living in the slums of Chicago for the rest of my life, or worse,鈥� she said.
Like The Supremes once sang: 鈥淎in鈥檛 No Mountain High Enough.鈥�